I Feel No Sexual Attraction — Should I Still Pursue Marriage? // Ask Pastor John

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Desiring God

11 Aug 2020

If someone’s ****ual desires are low to the point of indifference, should he or she still be open to marriage down the road?

In our culture, every ****ual orientation gets a label and a definition. A 26-year-old anonymous female listener has been considering those categories. She writes in to us, saying, “Hello, Pastor John! What are your thoughts on the ****ual orientation category of ‘a****ual’ — of people who experience no general ****ual attraction to others? This seems to be me currently. Am I broken? Is something wrong with me? Or do you think in a Christian’s life this would be a God-given signal that one has the permanent gift of singleness? At first I thought so, but then I see another category for those who are ‘demi****ual’ — those who experience ****ual attraction to someone, but only after a close emotional connection has first formed. I think I may be a****ual, but I don’t know. Perhaps I could be ****ually attracted to a man later on?

“In light of 1 Corinthians 7:6–11, does the Bible applaud a****uality? And how should a currently a****ual young woman proceed in thinking about singleness and marriage that embraces singleness and ministry opportunities, but leaves open the possibility of marriage in the future?” What would you say to this young female listener?

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